Today I was reminded that I need to curb my humor around certain women in the "mom circle"... or do I?
My daughter has approximately 8,000 events and functions and since our girls go to the same school, do the same sports and are members of the same clubs, I've been seeing these moms for years. We have a good rapport and a few of the women have become really good friends.
To be frank, I'm freaking over all of these events. When I'm over something my go-to is sarcasm or jokes. The accomplishments are lovely but I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Today we had events both downtown and then way up in the burbs. I was standing with four moms and we were talking about the craziness. We were all venting/bitching and I said, "Why can't our kids just be delinquents? At this point I'm trying to find out how much money I can get for her on ebay". Three of the moms laughed but the fourth one shot me a death glare saying, "Child trafficking is a terrible problem in this country" *record scratch* It got super awkward and I fumbled for a moment about what to say. Finally I managed, "Well yes it is...bad joke".
Then I contemplated it a bit more and I got annoyed. Aren't jokes about taking absurd situations and making light of them for the sake of a laugh? I wasn't even thinking in the sense of trafficking in that way. My point was that we have high quality kids.
We all have different sensitivities....what I can joke about may be traumatic for someone else. We don't know what other people have experienced in life. I understand all of that. So what's the "safe zone"? I don't think there is one except to talk about cute kittens or watching paint dry (but then what if someone's kitten fell in a bucket of paint back in the day and they get triggered?)
How do you manage this sort of thing?