the problem is, both men and women sometimes just think they can be friends and everything will be fine. You can not be friends with someone you are in love with.
Being totally honest from the start difuses all of that. I said from the beginning I wanted to marry her, then she got mad after she told me she was married that I said I couldn't be friends, that I lied.
I DID say we would always be friends, but that was BEFORE she told me she was married and before I fell in love with her.
You can drop that kind of information on someone and be mad however they react, whether they stay or rethink things