I found out that they are not if the woman is contesting. Personal experience in MN, my divorce was a mess. Men are considered the Fatted Cow, women are always considered the victim.
Happened to me and a number of my friends. That is why I am so anti marriage and believe everything should be a business contract - period. I did get custody, w/o support as the high earner bailed to discover herself....... yep I still am a bit bitter