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So I've been planning to pursue my former professor for a full academic year now. He is 15 years older than me which is just slightly above the limit and he is wonderful. He isn't married, has never mentioned a girlfriend/boyfriend/SO, doesn't have kids, and doesn't seem gay. He doesn't own a house yet but is going to buy one someday (I'm assuming settle down along with that). 

I've known him for a year and go to his office hours regularly to chat with him. He always makes time for me even though what I have to say is never really important. He is always in a good mood which puts me in a good mood, I smile so much around him that I think it's giving me wrinkles. He teases and flirts with me all the time, but he still keeps it professional so I know he's not a sleaze, which I wouldn't be into. However, this does make it kind of difficult to tell what he really thinks about me, but I'll let his actions speak for now. I'd like to say I'm pretty cute, cute enough for him.

All my life I've dealt with men who act like children, my dad, my ex who dropped out of college and left me for a girl who lives halfway across the country, so prof is like a breath of fresh air. He is a real man who has his priorities in check and can take care of himself and those he cares about. I'm beyond surprise he isn't married with kids by now.

Also, I want to clear something up. A lot of people like to jump to, "Well he's handsome and you look up to him. What you feel is admiration, not love." Which in my case just simply is not the whole truth. Of course I admire him and how well he teaches and how well he has done for himself, that doesn't mean I don't love him as well. I'm ready to move on from college life, I want a real career, I want a family. If we had met under any other circumstances I would have fallen for him the same. I've gotten to know him as a person and I love that person just as much. I don't want to date my prof, I want to date "____ __________" because he has everything I could want and need in a partner. 

So I get the idea that he likes me and enjoys spending his time with me, so I've planned to keep this up until I graduate. I'm going to become a nurse so that I may have a decent job to keep up with him right out of college. Also I'll be far away from academia. So, once I graduate we can start to hang out as friends and I'll be able to shoot my shot that way. We'll have known each other for four years at that point which is substantial. If he still can't see me as a partner I'll be able to keep him as a good friend.

So, by continuing to get close to him and lining up my starting success with his continuing success I might be able to pull this off.

What do you guys think?
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