A few months ago, this new guy started at my company. We seem to hit it off almost immediately. There was a lot of eye contact, body language, what felt to me like sexual tension and just really good conversation. He didn’t immediately mention the fact that he’s been living with a girl for a while. In fact, whenever he talks about her.... which is rare… He’ll say “the girlfriend“ and usually it’s something negative. Never by name. And I don’t know how long they’ve been dating/living together because he doesn’t ever talk about her and it’s not listed on his social media. In fact, there’s only two pictures of her and they are over a-year-old
We definitely have a connection in the office and other people don’t have, whereas I’m one of the few people he actually talks to, teases/jokes with etc.
I want to make it clear: things have never gotten sexual with us. But I would say they’re definitely flirty in a PG office friendly kinda way.
I was recently away on vacation when a guy friend of mine said to my crush one day “you know there’s someone in this office who likes you“. My crush knew immediately that it was me and began to smile and blush I was told. He then followed up with a line something like “I have a girlfriend, not much I can do about it“.
Week after that, I came back to work. So far it hasn’t been mentioned and things have been normal. The one change… I’ve noticed him creeping less on my social media in the last couple of weeks. My friend tells me not to read into it. He had a birthday when I was away so I posted a meme on his social media that he liked but didn’t say anything about.
To be clear: I’m not trying to be the other woman/homewrecker. I work closely with this guy daily. I’m just trying to figure out the fact that he smiled/blushed when he found out confirmation that I like him if that means he’s actually attracted too.
I am trying to figure out how to proceed in the office now that he has indirectly received confirmation that I like him.