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I was in a relationship for almost a year with a guy in the military. We found out he would be deploying soon and it really affected our relationship. I told him I would wait for him to get back since I love him and I really meant it. I never wanted to cheat on him and was really planning to just deal with the deployment and stick by his side. For some reason he didn’t believe me. He was afraid I would meet someone else while he was away and I kept saying I want to be with him and wait until he gets home. We were talking about getting married and made all of these plans together. Then one day out of the blue he sends me a text basically saying have a nice life. When I asked him to explain he just said we argue too much and he doesn’t need the stress. We have only argued TWICE in our relationship. I know he was just pushing me away because he can’t deal with his feelings. We were happy and he just abandoned everything so he wouldn’t have to deal with missing me while he’s gone. I still have a piece of his uniform so I offered to give it to him hoping we could see each other and reconcile before he leaves but he told me to throw it out. Should I keep making the effort or just let it go? 

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Its important how you act after getting dumped. If you keep trying you could come across as needy and emotional. You will get over him but you wont get over acting needy and emotional, it will haunt you for life.

Send him a text wishing him luck, tell him you will (pray, hope, send positive thoughts, whatever your thing is) that he remains safe and gets home ok. Thank him for his service and wish him well for the future.

Then see what happens.

No man has a  right to fix the boundary to the march of a Nation...

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He told you to have a nice life. I would do exactly that because history tends to repeat itself. And it's a pretty stupid thing to say.

Life is what you make it.

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Let it go.  You have been dumped.  I don't know why.  He didn't want you waiting, or more probably didn't want to limit himself from finding women.  Anyway, he decided to dump you.  Consider yourself lucky that you get to move on.  Write it off as something not working and move on.

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