I am sorry they weren’t there for you. Its just an important need that people especially if in a relationship should be prepared to support and not leave you hanging. The emotional pain runs deep and potentially can cause someone to hurt themselves if they are not taken seriously. Reading your story I sympathize and I am upset for you that you had someone who didn’t want to be there for you. I am sorry for your loss too :(
Regarding my situation, yes I have been very clear even at times when I am struggling and feel like I shouldn’t even have to explain myself and beg him to be my shoulder to cry on. I know how I feel about him being this way and I would leave. I can’t leave at the moment because its just too much for me to initiate at this time. I am navigating emotionally on my own until I get myself stable enough. I am picking up the pieces slowly and am getting better.
But our relationship have been very difficult lately. I will have another post to make shortly with more details. Basically, not only am I dealing with grief with a partner not being there for me but added on top of kicking me while I am down he’s diverts the topic back to himself saying he feels like hes not good enough for me. If I am in the middle of crying because a memory reminded me of my father, he will begin to yell at me for something random thing and then say hes a piece of crap and that hes not good enough for me. This behavior confuses me. I even had to stop my crying to comfort him at times and reassure him hes good enough. I am just really frustrated and don’t understand why he’s like this. I frankly don’t want to be with him anymore (I didnt tell him this yet. I am trying to pack up slowly and plan my exit) but I can’t deal with someone tearing me down. I already tear myself down enough, I certainly don’t need another person doing it for me.
Anyways, thank you for taking the time to comment, really appreciate feeling heard at times!