What to do with Pictures after Divorce

Question

I'm recently divorced. I have Wedding Pictures still. What do you suggest I do with the ones that have both our Families and us? I've a few just me and my Family and I, I do think it's okay to keep those. I was thinking about shredding the leftover Announcements. I'm considering selling the Rings and Dress.

Answer 1

I would suggest that you wait a year--sort of the equivalent of counting to ten to let things settle into a good perspective for you.

You may decide you wan to keep all the pictures: after all, they are a part of the history of your life, for better or for worse.  They may remind you of both good and bad decisions you have made, remind you of both good and bad times you have had.

What you shred will be lost forever; there's no bringing those things back should you have regrets in a year or two.

I would suggest the same for the rings. The dress is probably something you won't wear again, and it obviously won't have good sentimental value for you in the future, so I'd say that could represent your current feelings if you want to get rid of it. If you need the money, consider the dress and perhaps the rings "disposable."

I wish you the best as you move forward and pick up the pieces.

Answer 2

Excellent advice from Media. You have suggested some good solutions in your details too.. 

I have a photo album from a past relationship with an ex boyfriend, back when I was 16. I kept it because it was part of my past memories. My memories were not just with him but with many special friends. When I married my late husband, I asked him how he felt about me keeping it. He had no problem with it. I had no problem with him keeping his past picture memories either. We didn't mind because we trusted our feelings for each other. We, also, understood it was part of our treasured past.

You're decision is actually a personal one. Therefore, take some time for this thought. There's no wrong way to handle this, just follow your heart. 

Finally, if making a decision now feels rash, or too painful. Then simply put everything away in a safe place.  May I suggest a cedar chest or a plastic storage container. Then revisit this sensitive decision down the road. 

My best to you as you continue moving forward.