About 18 months ago, yeah.
He was both physically and verbally abusive, highly manipulative, and a cheater. I broke up with him, eventually with my sister's, but it took me a long time.
When I look back on it now, it seems pretty scary. And one of the main reasons I never wanted to say anything is because I hadn't come out yet. It's freaky to think of how many people are in that situation.