ANSWEROLOGY 'RELOADED' Newsletter
for the period between Jan 21, 2019 and Jan 28, 2019

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+5

My guess is that he hasn't found someone "better" so he decided to come back to you until he does.  He probably disappeared because some hot chick paid attention to him, and then ghosted HIM, so he's back to you. As soon as someone "cuter" shows up, he'll be gone again. 

But...why do you even care? You're not interested in him anyway, so just forget him. 

If you really NEED to know why he liked you again, ask him. We can only GUESS his reasons. He's the only one who knows for sure. 


+4

Hey, honey. Ok, first off, take a Deep breath. You are NOT old. Youre in your 30s, youre still Young enough to have children, etc, so calm down. Second, your life cant revolve around having a man or not.

Im 23 and I am in a serious relationship (hes even brought up the fact that he wants kids in a year or so). However, as much as I do love him, and I do, if he were to leave me tomorrow I would still be the same person and as valuable as a human being as I am today.

You Will attract more men with confidence, and by not being so down on yourself, not your job. So whether you decide to continue studying or not, do it for you and only you. What would make YOU happier?

xoxo


+4

Some people feel they need to be in a relationship. So I'm guessing he liked you again because something is better than nothing.


+4
In high school, my peers rarely passed up an opportunity to tell me how ugly I was. These days, they're fatter and uglier than I ever was - not to mention divorced, alcoholic and miserable. Karma is harsh. 

+4

Someone impugning my integrity. IMO, that is a major slap to the very core of one's being. 


+4

It depends on where you live. That amount would not get you far in NYC, California , Alaska or Hawaii. You'd be rich in Mississippi, West Virginia or Alabama. 

  If you were a man with a family, or a woman with a family it also would not get you far depending on where you lived. 


+4

I don't generally like to tell people what decision to make, especially when it comes to marriage. What I will say is that it sounds like a combination of incompatibility and immaturity, to me. For being only 26 (not sure how long you've been married), this is an awful lot you've had to go through and your husband does not sound very supportive of you, at all. And that makes me sad for you. I was also in a very unhappy relationship where I fell severely depressed, so I can relate to how you are feeling. And porn addiction? Oh my. So sorry..

 My advice would be to really evaluate what is important for your happiness and what things you are really wanting for yourself, and from a partner. People do not change, so you should've never went into this marriage thinking you could make him change and grow up. You are not his mommy, nor should you play that role. It might actually be a blessing in disguise that you do not yet have children with this person. I think you need to think about your options and what kind of life you want to have before thinking about bringing a new life into this world. Personally, this guy does not sound like someone I'd want to be the father of my children. Having kids does not fix marriages or relationships, it only adds more obstacles. 

I would say either try to work on your marriage first, or leave now if you feel he is being emotionally abusive. People do not change. I wish you the best in whatever decision you come to.


+3

Do you want to share into people's mouths for the rest of your life.  Doesn't sound like a good job to me.

Administrative assistant has a nice ring.  My wife did that.  It's better than cleaning some guys mouth.

You need to quit looking for the magic bullet.  Nothing is suddenly going to make you seem like superwoman.  

Your quest to find a guy will benefit from not living with your mother.  At least then you can offer to bring him up to your place.  Rather than invite more debt to achieve your current income, you need to become independent.  If you want to take a class, enroll in a self esteem course.  Otherwise take outward bound type stuff.

Guys are not shopping for a high income.  Women seem to do that but guys don't .  

I would not go back to school for what you propose.  



+3

If you run as a Democrat, you've got to beat out 12,000 other primary candidates first LOL!


+3

Only in London.  smilie-out-121.gif 

One of my most favorite memories of my trip there, is when a bunch of us walked back & forth across the bridge over the Thames by the National Theater (Is that Waterloo Bridge?) really late at night.  We had been to the theater to see a play ("Power" starring the incomparable Robert Lindsay  smilie_girl_231.gif )  and afterwards spent a few hours walking around the area - mostly on the bridge - walking, talking, taking in the sites by night, we must've crossed that bridge 20 times. What a fun evening. 



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+4

It won't matter. It's almost impossible to reverse brain-damage. 


+3

and the Russian fertilizer king’s plane showing up in Concord, NC during Trump rally campaign thing
and the Nunes sudden flight to the White House in the night thing
and the Nunes personal investments in the Russian winery thing
and the Cyprus bank thing
and Trump not releasing his tax returns thing
and the Republican Party’s rejection of an amendment to require Trump to show his taxes thing
and the election hacking thing
and the GOP platform change to the Ukraine thing
and the Steele Dossier thing
and the Sally Yates can’t testify thing
and the intelligence community’s investigative reports thing
and the Trump reassurance that the Russian connection is all “fake news” thing
and the Chaffetz not willing to start an investigation thing
and the Chaffetz suddenly deciding to go back to private life in the middle of an investigation thing
and the appointment of Pam Bondi who was bribed by Trump in the Trump University scandal appointed to head the investigation thing
and the The White House going into full-on cover-up mode, refusing to turn over the documents related to the hiring and subsequent firing of Flynn thing
and the Chaffetz and White House blaming the poor vetting of Flynn on Obama thing
and the Poland and British intelligence gave information regarding the hacking back in 2015 to Paul Ryan and he didn’t do anything thing
and the Agent M16 following the money thing
and the Trump team KNEW about Flynn’s involvement but hired him anyway thing
and the let’s fire Comey thing
and the Mueller let’s fire him too thing
and the Election night Russian trademark gifts thing
and the Russian diplomatic compound electronic equipment destruction thing
and the let’s give back the diplomatic compounds back to the Russians thing
and the let’s back away from Cuba thing
and the donny Jr met with Russians thing 
and the Trump allowing the deadline for signing the Russian sanctions bill pass
SO yeah there’s probably nothing there!


+3

His daughter claims he's very sad about the whole thing and wants me to email him as a peace offering. 

It's his place to e-mail YOU if he really wants a peace offering....


+3

Yes, I had heard about his tattoo but never saw it before. Thanks for posting.

   My father hated Nixon! Lol


+2

Here's the article ~

TEMPE, AZ (3TV/CBS 5) - Two signs in Tempe have puzzled passersby for the last two years.“It’s not clear at all,” said Jon Iversen, examining one of the signs.The blue reflective squares depict a man in a bowler hat carrying a briefcase kicking a leg high in the air as he appears to cross a street. They’re placed on either end of a crosswalk near the intersection of Mill Avenue and Fourth Street.“It could be anything, honestly,” said Chris Paulsen, who was visiting Tempe from Australia.Turns out, the signs are a reference to Monty Python, the classic British sketch comedy show. In particular, the signs pay homage to a skit featuring the fictional “Ministry of Silly Walks.”“We absolutely think there should be funny walks happening all over,” said Downtown Tempe Authority executive director Kate Borders.

Borders says she first saw similar signs in Canada and thought Tempe could really step up its signage game.

“In showing our public works department these signs, they said, ‘We could do that easily,’” Borders said.

The Downtown Tempe Authority, a nonprofit geared toward improving and beautifying the downtown area, paid for the signs. They say taxpayer money was not used.

“We just wanted the whimsy,” Borders said.


+2

And here's the sign in question ~

Image result for ministry of silly walks sign


+2

The windows, I swear sound like they're going to shatter. My house is so drafty, it seems the wind is blowing through all cracks.  I seriously need better insulation. 

   You stay warm too!


+2

I'm sure that would be part of it.


+2

Happy I could be of help :)

I would say from what you just told me, that he hasn't done anything to prove that he is untrustworthy so I feel that this is more of an insecurity issue for you. You should not overthink this because if you continue to overthink every situation such as this, you will destroy your relationship. Maybe some counseling to help you get over fearing what happened in your past relationships will help you work through this, because you do have to change your mindset regarding how you view these things. 

He was honest with you about cheating on his first girlfriend because it is something he feels guilty for doing, so by the sound of it...I don't think he is planning on repeating doing that to you, which is why he told you about it. When you are young and especially in your first real relationship, people do stupid things and it becomes a learning experience...which is why most people date multiple partners until they are really ready to settle down. No one is the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend right off the bat. Experience and learning creates that. If I were you, I'd cut him some slack and work on your insecurities together. Don't let silly overthinking get in your own way of happiness. 


+2

"If I were you, I'd cut him some slack and work on your insecurities together. Don't let silly overthinking get in your own way of happiness."

That's really good advice for this scenario.